The Real McCoy
You know what, lately, I've been having lots of discussions that have caused me to realize that I have a new outlook on relationships! Well, more like a new way of thinking when it comes to how I'll enter my next relationship! What is this great, deep & wondrous revelation you ask? Well, simply that I've decided that I'm going to be ME! This revelation came from a number of different places: talking to one of my dance ministry sisters, a comment from my friend Anita, a blog posting from my fellow TRINITY sista and talking to my sister today! So, yeah, onto the revelation! For the next guy who I enter a relationship with, he's going to get the REAL DEAL! He's going to get the sarcastic, loves to eat, LOVES God AND secular music, say what I feel, size 16 with no plans to become a size 1, checks my email CONSTANTLY during the day and would rather text message than talk on my cell Tonyette ! So, Peaches--dance ministry sister--and I were talking and she asked me how long would it be before I let the real deal out with a guy. I was like, "what do you mean?" She said, "well. like how long before you pass gas around him?" My answer was basically that, honey, at this point it'll be WHEN I am flatulent! Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to be GROSS nor am I saying that I won't put my best foot forward in the relationship, but I won't be fake! I just can't do it!! Then, I was talking with my friend Anita about the fact that I thought I was going to see this guy I was interested in seeing on a particular day. Well, my hair was cornrowed! She was like, "are you going to take it out and wear it crinkly?" I said, "no...I'm going to wear it like this, or perhaps put my wig on!"--I've posted about my "Sexy Girl" before! The wig is HOT! She was like, "guys like long hair!" I said, "well, sorry to hear that!" Again, don't get me wrong; I'm not trying to REPEL men or anything, but I see no point in being fake! I WEAR cornrows often...ESPECIALLY in the summer and I wear my wig often enough! Plus, I want to cut my hair and will probably do it SOON! It just seems like sometimes as women we got through all this rigamarole for the first 3 months of a relationship and then when we get comfortable, then we take off the masks & the guy thinks we've changed and he gets upset! However, the truth of the matter is, we've let out the REAL person!! So...to circumvent all that, I intend to just BE ME up front! I don't intend to "play dumb to make him feel good" or "let him win" or any of that other crap! I'm smart! And I LOVE to win!So, if I can't be ME and get a husband--because that's my goal, no need to beat around the bush by saying "BF" or "man"--then I am destined to be single!